Good things (also affectionately titled : The Perspective List)

A lot of times I find myself reciting things I’m not happy with in my head. I find that it does nothing but turning me into a negative Nancy, as if I’m not enough of a neurotic already. Also, boy, do I feel like an ungrateful jerk for doing that all the time. In an effort to be a more positive person (one of my 2012 resolutions), I’m going to start writing things I’m happy with. A gratitude list, if you will.

1) A great family day yesterday. On Saturday/ Sunday, we do family things together, the three of us. We love going to the park or doing outdoor activities on warmer months, be it festivals, concerts, barbecues, and the such. In colder months, we love doing museums, science center, or other indoor family stuff to do with Baby Bubbles. Well, yesterday we went to the Science Center and saw the Star Trek Exhibitions (our inner nerds are super satisfied), and Baby Bubbles got to play in their Discovery Room, where he got to build things, played trains, learned about bugs,  and other fun stuff. I adore doing things like that with my family, great memories were made. We then went over the a bookstore to find Goodnight, Moon.. a smash hit for children’s books I learned from my playgroup ladies. Unfortunately the bookstore didn’t have it in stock because it’s such a loved book, so we’re ordering it from Amazon instead. By the way, if you have a tots, buy that book. First published in 1947, it is a children’s classic. We then went over to a Chinese buffet where we stuffed ourselves full with greasy, salty, MSG-laden deliciousness. Sure it’s bad for you, but once in a while it’s good to indulge your inner glutton, yes?

2) I have a great little family. My son is amazing and smart, my husband is a heaven sent because why else would he keep up with my craziness for almost 5 years now? And also, my father in law, though crazy as he is.. he’s still my dad here.

3) My mother in law. I’ve heard horror stories of how MILs can be scary monstrous creatures.. but I guess I luck out, because my MIL loves me. She’s one craycray woman, that’s for sure, but when it comes to our relationship, she’s just what one would want from a MIL. She never gave unsolicited advice, she respects privacy, and she taught me how to be a frugal shopper. She taught me the art of thrift shopping and garage saling, and for me that was huge because I can’t tell you how much money we saved by shopping second hand. And she remembers things I like.. like the one time I went to Starbucks with her to pickup a fall must have (aka pumpkin spice latte) and I told her how much I love pumpkin and pumpkin spiced things. The next week she bought me a bottle of pumpkin spiced wine. And she remembered that my french press is broken.. so she picked up a set of press with matching cups at the flea market she went to. She’s not without flaws, but all things considered.. I’m glad I have her for a mother in this foreign country.

4) Becky, my husband’s best friend’s wife. Becky and I didn’t always get along when we first met over 4 years ago. I was a raging liberal feminist and Becky is somehow on the more conservative side, though admittedly she is also a feminist. She was just… not as crazy as me, let’s just say. But over the years I found that she is such a sweetheart, and maybe it’s also that I’ve gotten much more sensible with my political alignments, but we become friends. Her parents are some of the warmest,  most welcoming people I’ve ever met in this country. They invite us to their Christmas celebrations, they are there for help and they adore Baby Bubbles! Lately Becky and I have gotten a whole lot closer than we used to be and I cannot wait for our friendship to unfold even more, because I know that Becky is the kind of girl you want to have for a BFF, she’s loyal, sweet, understands the universal code of female friendships, she’s not the gossipy kind, although when we do gossip… it’s always a wonderful time. And her mom makes the best sangria. I mean, really. Aren’t I lucky or what.


5) My mama and sister. I mean, I’m ALWAYS grateful for the privilege of calling these ladies my family, but I don’t think there is ever a gratitude list where I won’t include them. My sister is one of the kindest, smartest people I know in my life and I am glad that her life turns out the way it does.. all the great things that happen to her are so well deserved.


6) I’m glad to be able to teach Mama a bit of technology. My sister recently just moved abroad for her Master’s degree, and she gave our Mama her old laptop since she’s getting a new one. Now, my Mama isn’t the tech-savvy kind, so she’s always needing help. She didn’t even know how to turn the video on Skype. Recently she wanted me to help her with installing Whatsapp on her Iphone, because my sissy told Mama that it is the cheapest way to communicate with her. Imagine teaching her that on Skype, literally, thousands of miles away! I spent 45 minutes last night trying to help her to download iTunes on her laptop so she can buy whatsapp from the Itunes store. After 45 minutes things got really exhausting and I had a long day so I told Mama we’re gonna continue it today. Mama was so proud, though, that she’s able to do the fancy shmancy itunes downloading! The conversation went something like this.

Mama : wow, I’m so modern, I can download things on the internet!  
me       : Ma, that’s not something you should be proud about (I like to tease her all the time)
Mama : But I’m better than some other Ibu-ibu I know, they don’t even know how to use computer!
me       : -_________________-


7) Lazy Sunday mornings. We are now still in our jammies at 10:05 AM, bellies full from breakfast. Baby Bubbles is watching the Jungle Book, all cuddled up with his daddy, and I’m here, typing away on my laptop. No plans for today, just being lazy. Though I wish we aren’t all sick dogs like we are! (we have flu, yep, all three of us)


8) My girlfriend L. I met this super nice girl at the playground one day. We immediately clicked because of our shared similarities, both of us living so far from our families. Her son S is my son’s favorite friend. She’s so friendly and warm and if it weren’t for her I wouldn’t be invited to the playgroup. She’s honest and blunt, and I love that about her because you know she doesn’t talk shit about you behind your back. But her family is moving to California soon.. and although I am happy for her I am also sad that I’ll be losing one of the most wonderful friends I’ve made here.

9) Blogging. I’m happy that I blog, because this is one of the most calming things I do to help myself relax. I’m glad to be able to read other blogs, I always like to read how other people live. If you are reading this, I am also glad that you do! PS: I do a happy dance everytime I got a notification in my email of a new comment 😀

..How’s that for a gratitude list?

(thank You God for all these blessings!)

6 thoughts on “Good things (also affectionately titled : The Perspective List)

  1. kalau udah dibikin list begini tiba2 baru berasa, ternyata idup kita ternyata ga jelek2 amat yaa.. hihi

    di the secret yang sempet heboh dulu pernah dikasih tau cara hidup lebih bahagia, salah satunya bikin list hal yang perlu disyukuri setiap harinya. gausah hal-hal gede, cukup hal2 kecil misalnya ada orang yang komen di blog! hihihi 🙂

    have a great day!

    • betchuuulll.. gue kalo ada yang komen langsung seneng banget, senyum2 sendiri.. 😀 pernah baca di suatu artikel online kalau rahasia dari hidup bahagia adalah kemampuan untuk menikmati & mensyukuri hal2 sederhana. 😀

      you have a great day too, thanks for stopping by 😀

  2. gue masih suka indecisive soal komen, satu sisi malu ada yg baca tulisan2 gue, rasanya pengen dibikin private aja atau berhenti ngeblog tapi sisi lain…eehhhmmm..diem-diem juga joged bahagia kalo nerima komen, hihihihihihi

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